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Life Can Seem Unfair Until We Change Our Perspective! See How!
Empty, Hollow, Nothing?.those words shout the sound of disappointment and disillusionment of life for many people; the experience of many people as they grab for possessions, power, knowledge, and the sweet things of life. But, what do they find? Yeah, you guessed it, emptiness, disappointment, and the awareness that Life sucks and then you die. Well, As Luck Would Have It! Have you ever heard the saying, "it's all in your perspective"? Perspective! Interesting word. It means relative importance of an object in the distance. Isn't that the way it is with everything we pursue? How bad do we want it? How important is it? Depending on the importance of your goals, you might not want to leave them to luck. Believing "only" in the luck syndrome, is a quick way to develop that "life sucks and then you die" perspective. Find someone with a "life sucks" perspective and you will find someone who thinks that if they didn't have bad luck they would have no luck at all. A Thimble Full Of Something! Now, I know some things just fall in our laps! But, not always the powerful, dramatic ones, and if you do get one of those huge blessings in one fell swoop, don't forget to be thankful. Or, it might not happen anymore. In fact, your perspective towards the small and insignificant accomplishments in your life could help to supercharge your ability to attain more of the bigger ones. And, isn't that where the rub is? Isn't that what we are really yearning for? Isn't that what causes our emotions to be up and down like a toilet seat at a mixed party? We strive, we push, we burn the midnight oil, and we put all our emotions behind the big issues and let the small ones fall by the wayside. And, then it seems life comes on the scene and reminds us of some small gesture, maybe a free lunch someone treated us to, or, someone backed his car up and let you have the parking space at Wal-Mart. Every Cloud Has A Silver Lining! We take those little freebies like that and go on to never give them another thought. You see, life has a tendency to want us to be grateful for everything, good and bad that happens, not just the dramatic ones. And, Life loves to remind us of the little ones. On the other side, I'm not saying you should be thankful "for" bad things that happen, but to be thankful "in" bad things that happen. For example: You just got passed up for a promotion or raise; you mean I should be thankful for that? Not thankful for it happening, but be thankful in the predicament. You can't change it, you can't wish it was different, you've got the short end of the stick and that is that! It's a fact. So, here's a tip. Lower your perspective to every goal, desire, or major ambition you seek, and this is important, "do it at the very beginning." Hear me now! This is not saying to be lazy in pursuing it like you do the ones you think of as coming from luck. When you are formulating this goal, promotion, raise, whatever, ask yourself, at the very beginning, how would I feel if I end up a few fries short of a happy meal in this deal? Then check up on the inside of yourself. Do you feel that scratchy feeling down in your belly? Did you have that "life sucks and then I'll die" if I don't get this feeling? Uh oh!! It's too important. The goal is not what is too important! It's the perspective you have placed on it in your mind. How Now Brown Cow! Ask yourself this question: If I don't "get this", what are my options? If you don't like the alternative options, then lower your perspective on your primary option. I know this sounds like a paradox, but it's true; if you are not obsessed with having your primary option, then you will find the "primary" option easier to obtain. Anything in your life that has the power to make you think life sucks and then we die is your master and you are its slave. It has got you by the ear and telling you; "that's ok sweetheart, you're just down on your luck and nobody appreciates you". Here's what I think of that! You can help change your perspective by giving thought to the small insignificant items in your life and considering how you compartmentalize them or think about them. The real important ones will create that warm fuzzy feeling down on the inside. They are real obvious! The trivial ones will be like, ho-hum yawn!! That Dog Won't Hunt! If you want to know the facts about it, life would love for us to think of all our ambitions as ho-hum, yawn. This is not to mean a lackadaisical attitude that says; "well, since I can't run with the big dogs, I'll just stay on the porch" attitude. The attitude I'm talking about will lower your blood pressure. Then by thinking of how your perspective is organized with the small items, you can compartmentalize the major issues in the same compartment. Don't' kid yourself; this is not hard to do. Just move things around in your brain, they will go where ever you push them. It may take some practice, but you can do it. Visualizing helps. I like to visualize the items that have too much perspective and see myself pushing them out a back door in my brain with my hand. No funny remarks now; somebody said I always thought you were a little bit crazy, talking about a back door in your brain! :>) Listen, it helps. There is no passing or failing score for this, just whatever you find that works for you. Experiment! The Power Behind The Throne! The life sucks attitude can be prevented by recognizing, realizing, embracing, being grateful, and thankful for the small blessings that come our way. Look for them and be quick to be thankful; life will be much more willing to send the big blessings to the person it can trust with the small ones. Richard Vegas © About The Author Richard Vegas is a popular recording artist and internet marketing professional. He invites you to subscribe to his FREE weekly ezine "Wing-Tips" Teaching The Success System That Never Fails, at: http://www.1-work-at-home-based-business-opportunities.com You may also hear some of Richard's free music at: http://www.richardvegas.com webmaster@1-work-at-home-based-business-opportunities.com
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